Monday 13 May 2019

Just random talks

Remember i talked about the naru girl? Times has past,she did several stuff. For example she closed the door behind me when i just only went out for trash and she knew that. And another im sure shes been trash talking behind my back. Must been acting pitiful and all. But its okay, true person that knows me will really knows me.

Everything is gonna be fine, Im sure.
Just leave everything to God and trust him.

Anyways, saying I love you to someone will cheer someone up. It gives energy to another people. Why dont u give it a try? :)

Wednesday 8 May 2019

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Today I am going to talk about a girl i know that is so manipulative, a compulsive liar, and a person who have no sense of decency and morality at all.

Let's call her Naru.

Naru is a girl I've known in the year 2016, when i started my medical studies. She is a mixture of a Sabah and a Chinese.

Well, when i first know her, she was all nice. Quite smart, and that time all 5 of us are living in the same house for a few months because of some contract, and everytime when there's fights in the house, she never was a participant in it, be it the person who calms the argument, or the person who started it. She was always out of it.

During 2017, I move to the same house with her after the contract with my agent ends.

It was alright at first, but quite lonely, cause she is a person who dont like to come out and hang out.

And I notice that, she will always asked me to help her buy something because I am a person who always comes out, so I would always help her. But until when I started to ask for help, she either woudlnt help me to buy, or will complain when i asked. Which is quite unfair, cause I always helped her without complaints. So when i realise this, i started to stop helping her.

So my uni system, there is always this kind of thing call tutorial aka discussion groups. And during the first day we would always use dictionary to check terms we dont understand. So I was always arranged in a same group with her, and she has her own dictionary, and I dont mind borrowing it, but she had been lending from me numerous time that when i wanna use it I cant use because she keeps on helding it.

So that one day I jokingly said in Mandarin, "Bring ur own book la!" with my face smiling.

But she got sensitive.

I didnt realise about it, until she started not really talking to me, and when i asked whether she's angry with me or not, she said no and continuosly giving me the cold shoulder.

And it lasted for like a month, then after that we had holidays for a month plus, and after the holiday is done, everything is back to normal. So u can say it lasted around 2 months.

Then I move out, and when it happens on the day I move out, she looks sad.

Then i thought, oh, she still cares for me.

Then things get better between us, I always liked to talk to her, but one thing i dont like is she likes to talk bad about other people. But for me I was thinking everyone has their flaws so I dont reli give it much thought.

Then last year in the month of October the year 2018, I move back in again.

And it was fine at first, but i had my doubts before moving in, afraid that when i move in, things would go bad again.

And things really gone bad without any realizations.

It happened like a week ago. It's on a Saturday, and I was having my afternoon nap, and i was awake by someone keeps on opening closing the door, multiple times.

I tried to bear, and i coudlnt, I first messaged Naru, who is opening closing the door, is it her or someone else, cause it woke me up. No replies.

So I went out and I wanna see who is that, and while I took my drinks from the fridge, I saw its her. Then I said in a normal tone in Mandarin, "Oh, it's you."

She replied in a ferocious tone " What it's me??"

"OH it's you the one who keeps opening closing the door numerous times, waking me up" in a normal tone i said again in Mandarin.

"what numerous times?? I just open once only." very rude tone

"where got open once only? It's like more than 5 to 6 times, make me almost wanna shout" In a normal tone

" sorry lor!"

This time, I heard her insincerity in her apology, so I didnt care and just went in my room.

Aftr a while, I heard a loud bang.

Then only i know, before that, she went and asked Pig whether her door is loud cause I scolded her. Wtf? I said in a normal tone, not scolding her at all.

Then Pig said it is loud. then Naru said in Mandarin "I'm so angry" and took her food and bang her door with her foot(which is the bang i heard).

Then she post something in the group, saying rude things like if anyone of u are fucking annoyed u can buy a new door etc.

And I replied her sorry even tho it is not my fault but she off her phone for the whole day.

The next day, when she on back her phone, it was 1pm.

I was eating with pig that time. And Naru messaged Pig a lot of bad stuff, talking bad about me.
Padahal Im not the one that did wrong, and instead of making her door softer she went and make it louder.

And then Naru asked her to knock her door when we came home, so that she can talk to me, but told pig to dont tell it to me.

So Pig and I discuss about this issue, and she adviced me to say sorry to her. Just kept saying sorry.

And when I went home, I act like I dont know anything and I turned my head, saying whats up in mandarin.

And there she was, hands on her waist, dressing up, putting on make up, hair was flowing nicely, and her head rise like a peacock, and she said in mandarin:" Dont u think yesterday u did too over dy?"

When I saw that scene, my head wanted to like snapped. I just asked:'' What do u think?"

And she wanted to say some more, but i immediately said :" whatever it is, everything is my fault, Im sorry."

Then I turned back and walk towards my room.

" I dont want your sorry, I just wanna know how to solve this problem by knowing when or not to open the door."

I was like thinking in my head wtf. How can i ever control someone to open the door or not.

I turned my head again and said sorry and walked in to my room. Maybe cause Im too angry I closed the door a little hard. And my whole body shaking.

She shouted and say things like a crazy lady outside. I dont wanna hear so I turn on the water sound to flush down her voice.

Only then i know that Pig had a minor argument with her. She told her "She already say sorry what else do u want?"

and then she said I beh song her.

and bang the door in front of Pig.

And pig said fuck in front of the door. and went.

And later on, this Naru type stupid stuff in the group. So many stupid stuff. Like she wanna punch my face and all. and I kept saying sorry. But she still like macam not satisfy and said give her one week to calm down.

And first day, she threw my absence papers away. on the floor. But before that, I accidentally drop her book on the floor, and I didnt say sorry, i know its my fault. But i thought she didnt know about it, but now only i know she knows. So maybe thats why she threw my papers I guess.
And then she put the bag between us. tak mau sit with me.

Then next day, I change place, let my friend change place with me.

And things was starting to feel okay la not tense. But seeing her just makes me feel tense.

And she spreading bad rumors about me.

A lot of things happen, her game on trying to bring me down. And she still keep on continuosly talking bad about me.

And one time, after a week, she suddenly text me in insta asking me wanna go to burger king or not.

but I just say see first.


Then yesterday, which is 3 weeks later, after I slowly let go dy, she told Pig that she wanna move out, she said memang she wanna move out, but then she indirectly say that her mom wants her to pindah cux to prevent ganggu sendiri and others, cuz seeing her so stress. So indirectly saying i was the reason behind her moving.

Then I was so affected by this, this morning I completely cant smile. Then aftr discussion group ends, sitting outside with my friends, tears fell on my cheeks from my eyes so suddenly. And then I became crazy, burst into tears. My friends went and console me lor later and i feel okay a bit.

And then maybe she got cigek by knowing me crying, maybe she thought i wanna make ppl pity of me or smtg, so she went into Pig's room to talk bad, adding more lies. like fr example, she said I scold bad words "made" on the day I told her about the door. If its really true why now only say?

 And she keep emphasize about me showing her bitchy face, like beh song her, and said shes not satisfy with my sorry and so on, which i totally dont deserve it and accusing me for stuff I didnt do.

I went to church, and meet with a priest, and his blessings make me feel more stronger.
I also talked to my parents, and their advice makes me stronger.

And so I made a decision based on my parents advice, I will no longer care a shit about her. Whatever she do, Whatever she talk, karma will get to her. Its none of my business.

She will be forever transparent to me, I wont give a fking damn about her.

Wanna spoil my name? Go on. True friends will stay. I believe in that.

Everything I said about her, being manipulative, telling lies, playing mind games, making herself pitiful, is all under narcissistic personality disorder. Be careful with this kind of person.

With God's grace, I end my story here.

With anyone getting bullied, do know u r not alone, and be strong, cause ur enemy just wanna see u weak. Just act like they dont exist, and move on with ur life. and if they do approach, just hi and bye. no need to push on longer. Good luck to you, and I love you.

Be strong.

Sunday 7 April 2019

Andro, Meda, Young

So instead of writing a long novel about my life, I decided that it would be easier if I put it in small parts. Small sections, divisions.

So I'm gonna start with the one that had been haunting my thoughts recently.

It was after I came back from Malaysia, with my failed plans and failure to convince the guy I liked to have sexual contact with. He rejected me, with the excuse that he is scared to hurt me and he felt guilty about it.

With a broken heart, and my bruised ego and confidence, I went and play a little with the Tinder app. I guess I dont need to elaborate what's a Tinder app is, cause its widely famous as a Dating App.

And on that day, I matched with a guy who puts his passport photo look alike pic as his profile picture.

Well, I clicked the like button on him cause his looks, appearance is quite acceptable. And he wore earrings on his ear, which i quite like it. But i never expected he would liked me too on my profile, cause he seems like a guy , seems like a bad guy, that will only fall for chinese beautiful girls. with fair skin, and all. Which Im so totally opposite to.

And he messaged me first i think, if im not mistaken, and he said smth like finally someone match with him on tinder.

We talked, and as usual I thought he is gonna be so boring and might not make me feel interested about him.

But, he immediately peak my interest when he watched the Friends series, a Marvel fan..

Was so excited cause not many ppl are like that. So we exchanged our Whatsapp. And he messaged me. Oh yeah, forgot to mention that he downloaded a PUBG app on the phone for me because i said no one to play with and i asked him did he wanna play. and thus he downloaded for me.

And I was the first to call him, after a game of PUBG with him, so that i can teach him how to play, cause it was quite hard to teach him without talking to him in voice. But, we ended up talking for hours instead, and we never did play PUBG again. Cause he said he is quite suck on it.

We talked through phone calls, for like 4 to 5 days. The conversation was so smooth. So so smooth. He tells me his life stories, how he trained muay thai just so he can protect the people he loves, that he had bad breakups, that how was he a third person in a relationship(whch makes me this that was fate cause i too was a third person in a relationship). We even discussed what our son and daughter's names would be, one would be Andro, another would be Meda. And i kept saying woah this is so fast this is too crazy. And how gentle his voice is, how assuring he sounded like, and how he acted when im acting like a small child. I love it. Love it so much.

But things go downhill on the 5th or 6th day.

I dont know why, but he never replied my messages, never answer my calls, and its like after a day and he still havent reply. I got panic, and became like a maniac, kept callling him more than 50 times, kept messaging him, demanding an answer from him. And in the mean time, I had his Instagram and i had been quietly stalking him, seeing whether he's online. And he did. I saw him liking those photos, but he never reply me.

All those promises, he promised he would protect me, he promised he would be there when i need someone to talk to, and even asked me out on a date if i went back to Malaysia in May.

Were those promises a lie?

And he finally replied, after a few hours when I thought he had been blocking me, telling me that the current him coudlnt love anyone, and asked to just be friends.

Is he kidding me? After those conversations, after asking me to like him and made me like him, and he say this now after disappearing?

I asked him, then why r u on Tinder app then? Why did he make those promises? Why did he ask me to like him?

He never replied.

And after a few days, I sent him one long essay, saying that he is not acting like a guy, being so irresponsible even though he is training like a man. and telling him what a douche he is, and tell him to never ever find me.

The message was never seen. There is no blue ticks. He didnt care after all. I'm just a toy for him isnt it?

I still stalk him on Ig for a few weeks. Seeing his stories, seeing what he liked on Insta, seeing his friends, how happy is he with his friends. Even randomly stalk him on Twitter. Until recently, I decided to call it quits. He never liked me, he is just another douche that plays with me, and he is not that great of a man either, and he is not reli that great looking, i might sound mean but his nose is really too large for his face.

I will never know why he did that, the sudden appearance, is it because i asked him to stop smoking? or because the first and last video call we had i didnt appear? (It lasted like 4 mins)

Well, I will never know.

And It's not really important anymore.

Cause I have much better things to do in my life.

Yes, this experience had traumatised me, making me not believing in any guys. Because I was in despair, and i thought he is the one that will come and save me, but nope, just another douche.

No one can save you after all, only yourself.

Goodbye Young, at least u taught me one the most valuable lesson in life--Don't trust people that easily, especially guys.

Monday 25 March 2019

The Beginning

Hi there...so I figure I need to share some of my stories in my life. In a way, it will be something to release my inner emotions, helping me cope with myself, and another, maybe to help you guys know that... you are not alone? Lol i just can imagine the song from MJ ringing in my ears right now...

Anyways, I'm a 21y/o girl (3months more till 22). So many things i wanna share...let's start from the beginning shall we?

I'm the first child in my family. When i was in my mother's womb, my mother doesnt wanna eat, doesnt wanna take a bath, because she felt nausea all the time.

And when her water first broke, i was in her for like near to 2 days, and i dont know why the doctors dont induce it, but at last they had to take a forcep to bring me out. when I was out, I was a blue baby due to the umbilical cord that strangles my neck when my mom is pushing me out. So, I nearly died. Almost. But got saved at last, and so i was weighed 2100g when i was born(underweight baby).

My mom said, nobody dares to touch me, due to how fragile and little i look, so my dad is the one who always showering me. And they always tell me once in Cameron Highland I almost fell down with my dad, and when my dad caught me in time, I was just laughing.

My dad said :'' Thats what i like about it, never cry."

And as I grow older, I became heavier. Fatter. Get laughed at, get teased at.....